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		<title>Food Storage and Preservation Class</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Feb 2012 16:02:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sharon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Are you gearing up for the new garden season and thinking ahead about what to do to make your garden work all year long for you?  Concerned about the rising price of food and looking for ways to feed your family through tougher times?  Want to get in on the fun and wonderful flavors of [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Are you gearing up for the new garden season and thinking ahead about what to do to make your garden work all year long for you?  Concerned about the rising price of food and looking for ways to feed your family through tougher times?  Want to get in on the fun and wonderful flavors of home preserved food?   Concerned about how to adapt your storage or preserving to special diets?  Want to make the most of your farmer&#8217;s market?   All of the above?  I&#8217;ll be teaching a six week online, asynchronous (ie, you don&#8217;t have to be online at any particular time) class on food storage and preservation starting on Thursday, February 16 and running until the end of March.  Cost of the class is $100, and I do have five scholarship spots available to low income participants in need.  If you&#8217;d like to donate to the scholarship fund, you can also do that &#8211; 100% of all donations goes to make more spots available to low income people who wouldn&#8217;t ordinarily be able to take the class.</p>
<p>Email me at jewishfarmer@gmail.com for details or to enroll.</p>
<p>Sharon</p>
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		<title>Ending &#8220;Farmer&#8217;s Wife&#8221; Syndrome</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Feb 2012 15:53:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sharon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Fairly often, when someone comes to our farm to make a purchase or do a job, the implicit assumption is that they should talk to Eric. The first time I remember seeing this was when we were farm shopping back a decade ago &#8211; we met our first realtor and visited our first farm, and [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Fairly often, when someone comes to our farm to make a purchase or do a job, the implicit assumption is that they should talk to Eric. The first time I remember seeing this was when we were farm shopping back a decade ago &#8211; we met our first realtor and visited our first farm, and the realtor led me into the house and then turned to Eric and said &#8220;Let me show you the barn.&#8221; My husband&#8217;s very calm response was &#8220;Sharon knows much more about barns than I do, I&#8217;m going to take our son for a walk.&#8221; This was the beginning of my experience with &#8220;farmer&#8217;s wife&#8221; syndrome.</p>
<p>Now on virtually all farms I have ever visited, everyone who lives there farms. The children help in the barns, the spouses share the duties &#8211; even if there is a gendered division of labor much of the time, as on Amish farms, the harvest or peak canning season overwhelm this and everyone who is present pitches in. It should go without saying that no farm can have anyone who isn&#8217;t competent to recapture lost livestock, fix a fence, handle an emergency birth or a medical crisis &#8211; because some days one person isn&#8217;t there. Nor can all knowledge rest in one person &#8211; because who milks or picks the beans when someone is ill, giving birth, caring for a family member or making the money that most farms don&#8217;t provide to pay taxes and bills?</p>
<p>Yet we cling stubbornly to the idea that instead of a family of farmers, all equally engaged with the land, if sometimes in largely different ways, that a farm family consists of a &#8220;farmer&#8221; and a &#8220;farmer&#8217;s wife&#8221; &#8211; and that the female partner is necessarily secondary. Gene Logsdon has<a href="http://www.energybulletin.net/stories/2012-02-01/last-plowgirl-has-arrived"> a great essay </a>about both why this is, and how that presumption is being disrupted by the growing number of independent women farmers:</p>
<p><em>Women rarely did the plowing however, and that seems to be the key difference. Lots of plowboys, nary a plowgirl. In other field work, women did more than their share. (I have theories but will leave it to someone smarter to explain why women didn&#8217;t plow.) The notion that males were the real farmers probably was rooted in the hunting and gathering stage of civilization where men brought home the game from afar (adventure time) and the women did the rest of the work at home (boring).</em></p>
<p><em>At any rate, after the plow became the symbol of agriculture in America, the role of women in farming did recede from the public eye. Women were supposed to stick to the kitchen and leave the real business of farming to their menfolks.</p>
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<p><em>This prejudice was astonishingly apparent even at farm magazines. As a journalist working for Farm Journal magazine, I often sat in farm kitchens interviewing farmers and their wives about their business. It was amazing how often the wives answered my questions much better than their husbands and how they so often did this by diplomatically and cleverly putting words in their husbands&#8217; mouths. It was obvious that most successful farms got that way because the wives were smarter and more articulate than the husbands. But the wives knew how to keep the male crest from falling by seeming to defer to their husbands on every occasion. The wives knew they had to make their mates look like top operators so that they could borrow the money they needed to keep on going. Bankers were no different from farm editors. They wanted to deal with men: women weren&#8217;t smart enough to run a business like farming</em>.</p>
<p>The answer to the question about why women didn&#8217;t do the plowing is anthropological &#8211; when tillage was done with digging sticks and handtools, in many societies women were the primary tillers of soil. But as anthropologist Judith Brown long ago observed, there is virtually no society in human history where women&#8217;s primary work is incompatible with the care of young children &#8211; and plowing behind draft animals is tough to do with a babe in a sling, and hard to do when you may have to stop and nurse, or chase a toddler away from the horse&#8217;s feet. Tractors are not good places to haul babies and young kids for long stretches either, and I know from experience you don&#8217;t fit well behind the wheel in late pregnancy. Moreover, in the era of chemical agriculture any number of things that are part of the farm experience are best not touched by women who may be pregnant or nursing. For most of women&#8217;s history, being pregnant or nursing was a normative experience for many years.</p>
<p>Most of us don&#8217;t have a baby every three years anymore, so there isn&#8217;t any reason why tillage or organic no-till agriculture can&#8217;t be done by women (chemical agriculture is still tougher for women of childbearing age, since so many things accumulate in body fat and breast milk). So is small-scale farming without large equipment &#8211; with the modern digging sticks. In the meantime, independent women small farmers are the only fast-growing segment of American agriculture &#8211; an entity that we all know is going to have to grow fast just to keep up with the aging population of farmers, and all the more if we are to remove the fossil fuel inputs from our agriculture and untie food and oil.</p>
<p>We have used language to write women out of agriculture &#8211; out of its history, out of its present, engaging in the &#8220;housewifization&#8221; of real agricultural work. The implication that the farmer&#8217;s wife is not a farmer, and is thus knowledgeable about only kitchens and babies (as important as those things are) is a diminuation, an act of linguistic violence that erases the multiple competences of farm women, partnered or not.</p>
<p>I look around me at the farm families I know and see women and men with a host of skills that step outside of gender. Sherri, who lives with her aging mother cuts hay for a living. Alice handles the thousand pound draft horses on their farm with skill and grace. The sheep are Rosa&#8217;s, not her boyfriend&#8217;s, as is the market garden. Louise milked fifty cows a day to her husband&#8217;s fifty and drove the tractor while he tossed the hay bales for forty years.</p>
<p>This started out as my farm, with my husband who was happy to give me credit, happy to do the heavy lifting, but not so interested in plants. It has become a project of two overlapping people with related interests and the ability to do one another&#8217;s work. The bees are his. The native plants and herbs are mine, the livestock are both of ours, the work is shared inside and outside as preference, pleasure and ability define. The daily applied science of agriculture is worked out between us. The pride in it is shared, and neither of us would demean our contribution by suggesting it comes primarily through the other, as &#8220;farmer&#8217;s wife&#8221; does.</p>
<p>The question of where the next generation of farmers is going to come from is an important one, because we&#8217;re engaged in an experiment with no historical precedent &#8211; for the first time in history, the majority of new farmers will have to come from off the farm &#8211; for decades we have been able to reduce the number of farmers by drawing off many and destroying farm cultures and communities, while still having enough to meet our needs, but the farm population is rapidly aging, the next generation of farmer&#8217;s children have already left the farm, and now we must ask who will replace them?</p>
<p>The answer so far is that women are a part of the answer, and I hope this will be the end of farmer&#8217;s wife syndrome and the emergent recognition of the fact that farmers come in many packages, and that a way of life is something that circles round and encompasses everyone who lives it.</p>
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		<title>Independence Days Challenge is Back!!!</title>
		<link>http://sharonastyk.com/2012/02/01/independence-days-challenge-is-back/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Feb 2012 14:56:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sharon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Well, to general acclaim I&#8217;m bringing back the Independence Days challenge and I do hope you&#8217;ll all sign up and participate.  We&#8217;ll report on Fridays.  Here are the categories, so you can record your accomplishments.  Please feel free to publicize on your sites or anywhere you like, and please just join in to participate! The [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Well, to general acclaim I&#8217;m bringing back the Independence Days challenge and I do hope you&#8217;ll all sign up and participate.  We&#8217;ll report on Fridays.  Here are the categories, so you can record your accomplishments.  Please feel free to publicize on your sites or anywhere you like, and please just join in to participate!</p>
<p>The whole idea is to get the positive sense of your accomplishments &#8211; it is easy to think we haven&#8217;t done anything to move forward, but in fact, we all do, almost every day.  We just think of accomplishment as a big thing &#8211; a whole day spent putting up applesauce or a hundred tomato plants.  The Independence Day project makes us count our little accomplishments and see that we are moving forward.  So for each week, tell us what you have done in the following categories:</p>
<p>Plant something: A lot of us were trained to think of planting as done once a year, but if you start seeds, do season extension and succession plant, you&#8217;ll get much, much more out of your garden, so I try and plant something every day from February into September.</p>
<p>Harvest something: Everything counts &#8211; from the milk and eggs you get from your animals to the first dandelions from your yard to 50 bushels of tomatoes &#8211; it all counts.</p>
<p>Preserve something: Again, I find preserving is most productive if I try and do a little every day that there is anything, from the first dried raspberry leaves and jarred rhubarb to the last squashes at the end of the season.</p>
<p>Waste not: Reducing food waste, composting everything or feeding it to animals, reducing your use of disposables and creation of garbage, reusing things that would otherwise go to waste, making sure your preserved and stored foods are kept in good shape &#8211; all of these count.</p>
<p>Want Not: Adding to your food storage or stash of goods for emergencies, building up resources that will be useful in the long term.</p>
<p>Eat the Food: Making full and good use of what you have, making sure that you are getting everything you can from your food, trying new recipes and new cooking ideas, eating out of your storage!</p>
<p>Build community food systems: What have you done to help other people have better food access or to make your local food system more resilient?</p>
<p>And a new one: Skill up:  What did you learn this week that will help you in the future &#8211; could be as simple as fixing the faucet or as hard as building a shed, as simple as a new way of keeping records or as complicated as making shoes.  Whatever you are learning, you get a merit badge for it &#8211; this is important stuff.</p>
<p>Ok, you can sign up in comments, publicize on your blog and tell the world &#8211; let&#8217;s see what we can get done!</p>
<p>Happy Independence Days!</p>
<p>Sharon</p>
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		<title>Update on the Family Re-org Project</title>
		<link>http://sharonastyk.com/2012/01/23/update-on-the-family-re-org-project/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 23 Jan 2012 15:26:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sharon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Well, somewhere in late December and early January I kind of petered out, I have to admit.  There was this viral thing, and then we had guests, and then I had four kids 4-1 for five days, and then a stomach thing, and then Eric went back to work.  But I&#8217;m doing better with it [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Well, somewhere in late December and early January I kind of petered out, I have to admit.  There was this viral thing, and then we had guests, and then I had four kids 4-1 for five days, and then a stomach thing, and then Eric went back to work.  But I&#8217;m doing better with it &#8211; here&#8217;s what I actually did:</p>
<p>1. I did empty out the pantry room and move things into the extra little kitchen or in our room.  Unfortunately, my room is still a mess.  That&#8217;s on tomorrow&#8217;s project list.  But we do have that guest room back, which is good, because the thermostat is in there, and during the coldest periods, keeping the door closed in there gets a little scary (also the furthest spot in the house from the stoves).</p>
<p>2. I sorted out some of the games and also cleaned out the game closet &#8211; I didn&#8217;t get rid of all the boxes, mostly because the kids were concerned they couldn&#8217;t see what games we actually have that way.  Still mulling over how to do it.</p>
<p>3. Got my stash of goods for sudden arrivals of foster kids somewhat depleted by the group of four, but this prompted me to do much more sorting and organizing and keep better lists of what I need and don&#8217;t need &#8211; I&#8217;ve now got enough girl clothes in most sizes that I can look for specifics when I go thrift shopping , which is useful, because now I know I need warm pajamas,  sweaters and leggings and bathing suits for girls and cloth diapers for babies, but not necesarily pants and t-shirts in most sizes.  Was able to get through five days with 4 kids without shopping for anything but diapers and formula &#8211; which is really good, since I had no time to do any of those things <img src='http://sharonastyk.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';-)' class='wp-smiley' /> .  Sorted and reorganized the laundry room, put all the boys&#8217; old clothes away in better-organized fashion.  Sorted out shoes (also often needed on the fly &#8211; kids almost always come in too-small shoes, because hey, shoes are expensive) and winter gear (same as shoes).</p>
<p>4. Did nothing with garage, but trained dogs to sleep in the house in cold weather.  Hey, you win some&#8230;</p>
<p>5. Reorganized the kids&#8217; room &#8211; mostly.  They have mostly unorganized it by now <img src='http://sharonastyk.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';-)' class='wp-smiley' /> .</p>
<p>I need to do a major kitchen reorganization next, and also my seed and gardening supplies.  That, and some infrastructure (electrician here now for rewiring that has needed doing for ummm&#8230;.a long time, plumber coming soon for similar problem&#8230;), including better gates for the bottom of the stairs and the wood cookstove will just make life a lot easier.  I also am doing more cooking ahead and storing some kid-friendly meals so that when we suddenly go through the sharp learning curve of getting to know new kids, we don&#8217;t have to rush around cooking or order pizza.</p>
<p>How about you?  Did you get your projects done?  Got any new ones?</p>
<p>Sharon</p>
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		<title>Eat the Food and Food Waste</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 23 Jan 2012 14:09:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sharon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Thank you all for all the enthusiasm for bringing back the Independence Days Challenge &#8211; I&#8217;ll put up the details and new parameters for the start of February.  There&#8217;s been some good discussion of the merits of an &#8220;eat the food&#8221; category  and whether it was necessary &#8211; that&#8217;s a good and reasonable question, but [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you all for all the enthusiasm for bringing back the Independence Days Challenge &#8211; I&#8217;ll put up the details and new parameters for the start of February.  There&#8217;s been some good discussion of the merits of an &#8220;eat the food&#8221; category  and whether it was necessary &#8211; that&#8217;s a good and reasonable question, but recent news events happened to remind me why I want to put it in there.</p>
<p>We are back up to 1 billionish hungry people in the world, and 1/3 of all food goes to waste worldwide.  Now I&#8217;d like to say that none of it went to waste in my house &#8211; after all, I&#8217;ve been writing about food waste and food security issues for years, and I really have tried hard to ensure that everything gets eaten here.  It does &#8211; by someone.  But the best use of my lentil-kale soup is really feeding the people in my house, not the chickens, and embarassingly often, some human food gets fed to dogs, cats, rabbits or goats.</p>
<p>A summit of f<a href="http://www.bloomberg.com/news/2012-01-22/farm-ministers-denounce-food-waste-as-almost-1-billion-people-go-hungry.html" target="_blank">armers and food policy experts in Germany</a> makes the stakes clear:</p>
<p><em>Consumers in rich countries dispose of 220 million metric tons of food waste every year, equal to the entire food output of sub-Saharan Africa, Jose Graziano da Silva, the director general of the <a href="http://topics.bloomberg.com/united-nations/">United Nations</a>’ <a href="http://topics.bloomberg.com/food-and-agriculture-organization/">Food and Agriculture Organization</a>, told 64 agriculture ministers meeting in Berlin over the weekend.</em></p>
<p><em>“We must change our way of thinking, we must have more education, we must have discussion about best-before dates,” German Agriculture Minister <a href="http://topics.bloomberg.com/ilse-aigner/">Ilse Aigner</a> said. “Every food item thrown away is wasted.”</em></p>
<p><em>One third of the food produced in the world every year is lost or wasted, amounting to 1.3 billion metric tons, according to Graziano da Silva. As many as 925 million people faced hunger worldwide in 2010, based on the FAO’s most recent estimate.</em></p>
<p>In rich nations in the global north, the majority of food is lost not in the fields, but somewhere after it begins the process of getting to your table &#8211; in shipping, processing, at the store and in our homes.  In the global south most food is lost in the fields, due to lack of adequate capacity to process it.  Food loss in the global south could be reduced by very small increases in available resources &#8211; large scale dryer to dry grain crops damaged by moisture, dehydrators and collective refrigeration.  In the north, most of the food loss is *ENABLED* by our fossil energies &#8211; it gets freezer burned and tossed in the deep freeze, it gets damaged by fluctuating temperatures during long haul trucking, it isn&#8217;t pretty enough to sit out under flourescent lights or it turns green the fridge.  We use vastly more energy in our food system, waste similar amounts of food, but only after we pour fossil energies into it.</p>
<p>What does this have to do with the &#8220;eat the food&#8221; category of the Independence Days challenge?  Someone once observed to me that they found it harder to eat the kale, or get the green beans before they got overripe, or make sure they cooked with the organic vegetables they were buying at the farmer&#8217;s market than they did shopping or growing them, and I don&#8217;t think this is a unique experience.  Ultimately, the problem of managing the food in our pantries and our gardens and everywhere else is a task that requires an attention that most of us haven&#8217;t given in the same way that we may have given our attention to the learning curve of actually starting seeds or cooking.  We don&#8217;t want to waste, we don&#8217;t intend to waste, but the art of making full and good use of everything is one that we have not treated as requiring the same attention and thought as the rest of the food project.  There will never be a fully waste-less society, and indeed, our livestock are grateful for a little extra &#8211; but a little is what they need.</p>
<p>One of m goals for re-starting the Independence Days project, then, is to be more artful in my use of food, taking full enjoyment from what we have and ensuring we don&#8217;t over buy, don&#8217;t miss the windows of opportunity for enjoyment, and that we make good meals from what we have &#8211; all of it, whenever possible</p>
<p>Sharon</p>
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		<title>Bringing Back the Independence Days Challenge</title>
		<link>http://sharonastyk.com/2012/01/18/bringing-back-the-independence-days-challenge/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 18 Jan 2012 15:22:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sharon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Ok, folks, I&#8217;ve decided I seriously miss the Independence Days challenge &#8211; I really need that little kick in the pants to write down everything I accomplish on the homestead.  Am I the only one?  Anyone else want to see it back? I&#8217;m debating expanding the categories a bit to cover non-food related sustainability activities, [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ok, folks, I&#8217;ve decided I seriously miss the Independence Days challenge &#8211; I really need that little kick in the pants to write down everything I accomplish on the homestead.  Am I the only one?  Anyone else want to see it back?</p>
<p>I&#8217;m debating expanding the categories a bit to cover non-food related sustainability activities, but I don&#8217;t want it to get too unwieldy &#8211; I&#8217;d welcome thoughts on how to do so, or what you&#8217;d like to see.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m also going to push the &#8220;challenge&#8221; part of this harder and publicize it more &#8211; after all, this is just plain fun stuff, right?</p>
<p>Thoughts?</p>
<p>Sharon</p>
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		<title>The Foster Parent Diet</title>
		<link>http://sharonastyk.com/2012/01/12/the-foster-parent-diet/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Jan 2012 15:15:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sharon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Given that January is the season for regretting excesses and making new starts, I thought I&#8217;d offer Sharon&#8217;s patented formula for losing 10lbs fast &#8211; absolutely guaranteed to take off the weight like lightning.; Day 1: Spend most of the day getting ready for a weekend event &#8211; running errands, shopping at local markets, prepping [...]]]></description>
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<div>Day 1: Spend most of the day getting ready for a weekend event &#8211; running errands, shopping at local markets, prepping to prepare lunch for 20+ people.  Run into friends and acquaintances and chat about the upcoming event.</div>
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<div>3pm Day 1: Get a call from your caseworker announcing that she has four children, 4, 3, 2 and 1 in need of an emergency placement &#8211; can you take them RIGHT NOW?  In a fit of insanity, say yes.</div>
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<div>4pm Day 1: Race around gathering everything together and installing carseats and drive to collect children in Walmart Parking lot.  Call friends organizing lunch the next day and inform them that you will not be bringing food for 20.</div>
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<div id="_mcePaste">5pm Day 1: Receive four terrified children.  Take eight children through Walmart to buy a carseat for baby (because we only have two carseats) and to allow kids to pick out some familiar foods. Weight Bearing Exercise: Each parent carries one child and pushes the other in a cart.  Say yes to Dora the Explorer Yogurt (because traumatized kids deserve some familiarity).  Say no to poparts.  Install new carseat and get</div>
<div id="_mcePaste">Race home with children, rapidly assemble dinner while holding a baby in one arm.  Let kids play for a while, then feed them.  Feed baby while trying to eat your food.  Don&#8217;t eat much.  Race through the house pulling pajamas in various sizes out of your stash, trying to guess what size the kids are wearing.</div>
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<div>8pm Day 1:  Bathe four children and spend 3 hours trying to get hysterical, frightened kids reassured and to sleep,  Finally collapse into bed at midnight.</div>
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<div>6am Day 2: Begin race to get eight kids dressed nicely for synagogue.  Bathe other four kids.  Gulp half a cup of hot tea while children play contentedly &#8211; five minutes later go back to real life, where children need constant attention.</div>
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<div>10 am Day 2.  Load eight kids between the ages of 11 and 1 into car and booster seats (where relevant) for the second time.  It only takes 10 minutes this time.  Drive to synagogue.</div>
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<div>10:30am &#8211; Vaguely aware that there is a service going on somewhere, but spend the time in babysitting keeping children from whacking other children.</div>
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<div>Noon, Day 2: Take children in for kiddush (snack time).  Wind Sprints:  Attempt to eat a brownie.  Instead, chase two year old who thinks it is funny to run away from you for a while.</div>
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<div>1pm, Day 2 &#8211; Playground time.  Lots of stretching and running.</div>
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<div>2pm Day 2 &#8211; Home for lunch.  Eat with baby on lap.  Discover baby is faster at grabbing your plate of chicken than you are.  Note how quickly cats move in on dropped chicken.  Wave sadly goodbye to your food and feed baby.</div>
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<div>Rest of Day 2 &#8211; Race around like maniacs trying (and failing) to keep up with laundry, dishes and eight kids.  Calisthenics: Do &#8220;baby dance&#8221; at high speed for two hours to get cranky infant to sleep,&#8221;  Finally get panicky children to sleep at 10pm, then face dishes.  Collapse at midnight again, wakened at 2am by baby and 5 am by own children who are raring to go.</div>
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<div>Day 3, am- Get eight kids out of the house appropriately dressed by 9am this time so my kids can go to Hebrew school, and birthday parties.  Entertain non-Hebrew school attending foster children for two hours while husband tutors.  Play ring-around-the-rosie and horsie for two hours.</div>
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<div>Day 3, pm &#8211; One child has birthday party in vicinity of Hebrew school, so decide to take other 7 children to local chinese buffet (you normally would have packed a lunch, but that just wasn&#8217;t going to happen today) and to the public library.  Wind sprints, part 1: During lunch, baby has diaper disaster and you suddenly realize that the change of outfit you found for her requires socks &#8211; but previous outfit had no socks and you haven&#8217;t packed any.   Abandon hope of lunch and race for van, where wonderful, kind friend has just dropped a pile of outgrown baby clothes with you.  Bless friend&#8217;s name repeatedly while triumphantly digging out slightly-too-small-but-still-functional socks for baby.  Run back to restaurant with socks.  Wind sprints part II: When arriving at library (after repeated in and out of carseats which you can now do in 2 1/2 minutes (older son has timed)) decide &#8220;we don&#8217;t need to haul in the diaper bag (which weighs 20lbs easily with clothes for all these kids and enough snacks to feed a small country), we&#8217;re only going to be here a few minutes.&#8221;  Realize hideous mistake as we are standing in line to check out and 2 year old creates disturbing odor and related mess.  Run for diaper bag.  Run with diaper bag.  Contain child and mess.  Arrive 20 minutes late to pick up son from birthday party.</div>
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<div>Day 4, am: Wonderful, kind Mother in law arrives to help.  Magical addition of pair of third hands makes life so much better.  Actually have time to do dishes and devour 500 calories without standing up.  Meanwhile, eldest son throws up on bus on way to school and is returned to us.  Repeats vomiting a couple of times just to make sure we&#8217;re full up on laundry.  Hear explained by three year old that she was sick and threw up the day before they came.  Hmmm&#8230;</div>
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<div>Day 4, pm:  Take five kids (four foster plus sick but good natured oldest son) to visit with foster children&#8217;s  extended family.  Incredibly heart-warming experience when great-grandmother and grandfather both of whom spent many hours in transit (grandpa spent 30 hours on a bus) to come and get their babies and keep them safe.  Feel incredibly good about being foster parents.  Wind sprints:  Leave kids to visit with family and race out to buy formula, milk and rubber snakes (kids have been fighting over single rubber snake in house).  Seek rubber snakes in several locales at high speed.  Return, take kids home feed, put to bed, actually get to sleep before midnight, although not much.  Eat an actual meal with only a little help from baby.</div>
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Day 5: Take all four kids to the doctor, and finally, by the end of the day, to reunite with Grandpa, who is taking them home to another state.  Pack from stash four days worth of clothing, diapers, formula, baby food, toys and games for children to take on 30 hour bus ride.  Repeatedly bless all the people friends, family and some blog readres who have helped me build said stash because, frankly, if I&#8217;d had to take eight kids shopping for clothes I&#8217;d be locked in the loony bin right now <img src='http://sharonastyk.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';-)' class='wp-smiley' /> .</div>
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<div>Day 5, evening: Bring home children, including stomach-bug ridden second son.  Feed everyone popcorn, apple slices and cocoa, because we&#8217;re too tired to do anything else.  Get kids into bed at normal bedtime and anticipate a period of relaxation, recovery and laundry doing.  Join husband on couch to triumphantly celebrate a job well done with glasses of wine and a lovely local cheese.   Talk over the events of the week &#8211; exhausting, stressful but also wonderful and well worth it.  Miss the kids.</div>
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<div>Day 6, 1am. Succumb to stomach virus brought home by some child in residence, whether permanent or temporary.  Profoundly regret cheese and wine.</div>
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<div>Day 6: Consume nothing but mint tea and toast.</div>
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		<title>The Giant Family Re-Org Project</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Dec 2011 14:49:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Well, I sent to book to my editor late on Saturday night, which gave me yesterday to decompress a little before Eric and the boys returned from visiting Grandma (it is generally felt to be wise for everyone to spend the last few days before a book is done somewhere else so I can work [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Well, I sent to book to my editor late on Saturday night, which gave me yesterday to decompress a little before Eric and the boys returned from visiting Grandma (it is generally felt to be wise for everyone to spend the last few days before a book is done somewhere else so I can work non-stop and they don&#8217;t have to put up with me getting neurotic).  Today we embark on the next big project &#8211; reorganizing the house for 7-10 children.</p>
<p>As you may or may not remember, we had ten kids for about 24 hours in November, when we took a short lived placement of five (several of the kids were allergic to cats, everyone moved to a cat-free home) shortly before M. who had been with us for a month, left to live with his Aunt.  The next week was Thanksgiving and one of our biannual trips to my family near Boston, and then I plunged headlong into the book, so it is safe to say that nothing has been cleaned or organized more than the bare minimum for some weeks.</p>
<p>Taking such a large sibling group, even for a short time, was eye-opening.  Due to legal requirements about shared space (kids over 7 can&#8217;t share rooms with opposite gender siblings) and different possible numbers of kids, it is hard to know exactly how many rooms we&#8217;ll need or how we&#8217;ll want to arrange them.  We have an official &#8220;kids room&#8221; but may need more space than that.  Medical needs of children might also shape how we arrange things, as might just plain getting-along issues.  We have a six bedroom house, so there are a lot of options, but not only do we need to be able to make adjustments fairly quickly, but we also need to have more flexibility, and ideally, want it done before the next time we go to ten kids <img src='http://sharonastyk.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';-)' class='wp-smiley' /> .</p>
<p>This is actually a good time for us &#8211; hectic for most of the rest of the nation, Chanukah is a minor holiday, celebrated mostly in quiet ways at our place.  Eric&#8217;s semester ends soon and the exams and other grading chaos will ensue, but all the more reason for the rest of us keep busy, and by the 20th or so, he&#8217;ll be able to help.</p>
<p>So the next few weeks will spent doing the following big home projects:</p>
<p>1. Cleaning out and reorganizing the laundry room into a<a href="http://www.lotsofkids.com/LOK-Household/Laundry/familycloset/familycloset.php" target="_blank"> &#8220;family closet&#8221; kind of like this.</a> I actually did this years ago, and I thought I&#8217;d invented the idea &#8211; I moved all the kids clothes, and then ours onto open wire shelving in the laundry room, so that I didn&#8217;t have to constantly haul laundry around or deal with the kids throwing everything out of their dressers.  It has been one of my favorite things &#8211; but making space for 2-6 more kids will require some revisions and restructuring.  For example, the dryer which we haven&#8217;t used in 6 years, is still sitting there taking up space because in order to get it out, I have to take everything out and move the washer.  I am finally going to do this.  Meanwhile, all the kids&#8217; out of season clothes have been kept in bins below the open shelves &#8211; those are moving out and into upstairs closets.</p>
<p>2.  Our food storage has taken over one of our spare bedrooms.  Remember, we&#8217;ve got six bedrooms, of which, until this year, only two were occupied by sleeping people.  So we turned one of the smaller bedrooms into a pantry space.  The problem is that we may need that room back &#8211; it is a logical candidate to be a kids&#8217; bedroom &#8211; or a housemate&#8217;s bedroom.  So most of the food storage is going into either the spare kitchenette in Eric&#8217;s grandparents apartment, or up to  curtained off segment of our room. Of course, that means I have to clean out both those spaces first.  Someone in a previous post expressed fear that we&#8217;d be sleeping in a pantry &#8211; no worries, our room is so huge you could play raquetball in it, so there&#8217;s  plenty of room to isolate food storage.</p>
<p>3. The games closet.  We are board game fans and we have a ton of them &#8211; they take up an entire enormous closet, and frankly, are a huge mess &#8211; every time my kids take out one game they mess them up, and things spill, etc&#8230;  I am going to try a new system, in which all the pieces are kepts in cabinets, the boxes are disposed of, and the boards are labelled and stacked in a bin &#8211; at a minimum this should allow the mess about 1/3 as much space, even if it doesn&#8217;t keep them tidy.  I&#8217;ll keep the boxes for a while, just in case I regret my decision.</p>
<p>4. A reorganization of the boys&#8217; room.  Over the years a room that was mostly designed for little kids to play in has become more the room of bigger kids who spend their time writing, cartooning, drawing and rampaging, rather than playing with toys per se.  Time to move things around and make the room into the big-kid space it actually is.</p>
<p>5. The garage.  Let&#8217;s just stop there and leave that.  Also, before it gets really cold, we need to get the garage set up for the winter.  Mac the Marshmallow, who hates to sleep in the house and refuses to do so can be persuaded on the worst nights to take refuge in the garage, so it needs dog space, and to be cleaned out.</p>
<p>There are a bunch of smaller projects as well, so that&#8217;s what I&#8217;ll be doing in the dark of the year.  Oh, and winterizing the barn, breeding the does, butchering chickens, getting the calves butchered, cooking and throwing a couple of parties during Chanukah &#8211; but after the book, that seems easy.</p>
<p>What about you?  What are your projects?</p>
<p>Sharon</p>
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		<title>Best Frugality Tips?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Dec 2011 17:50:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m going to be buried under my book for the next few days as the Adapting-In-Place book finally goes to my editor, but I did want to respond to this email, or rather, get my readers to respond. Gwen writes: &#8220;I just lost my job, and after a lot of late nights and panicked budget [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m going to be buried under my book for the next few days as the Adapting-In-Place book finally goes to my editor, but I did want to respond to this email, or rather, get my readers to respond. Gwen writes:</p>
<p>&#8220;<em>I just lost my job, and after a lot of late nights and panicked budget making, we think we can get along on just my husband&#8217;s income, but it will be very tough and there will be no money at all for extras of any kind. We&#8217;ve always used our discretionary income to support things we care about &#8211; in the last few years this was local farmers and craftspeople, and making ethical choices when we shopped. Now I feel like I don&#8217;t have the luxury anymore &#8211; I know a lot of things that I can do to save money will be environmentally sound as well &#8211; turning down the heat, cutting back on the lights, buying more used items, but I hate to go back to choosing the supermarket for food and Toys R&#8217;Us for gifts because they are cheaper, but they often are. Do you have any suggestions for frugal sustainable shopping?&#8221;</em></p>
<p>This is a great and timely question, and I do have answers, but unfortunately, I&#8217;m head down in the last bit of my book and don&#8217;t have time to respond right now. Thus, I pass it on to you, my readers. How do you balance the need to save money with making good and ethical consumer choices that support things that are important to you? What do you suggest to Gwen?</p>
<p>Thanks everyone!</p>
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		<title>On the Merits of Sleep</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Nov 2011 19:45:08 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[It is a dark time of year now, and it makes me drowsy. Americans carry enormous sleep debt &#8211; if you put the average American in an extended sleep study, exposed to natural light and allowed to sleep as much as their bodies demand, they will sleep 14 hours a day for the better part [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It is a dark time of year now, and it makes me drowsy.</p>
<p>Americans carry enormous sleep debt &#8211; if you put the average American in an extended sleep study, exposed to natural light and allowed to sleep as much as their bodies demand, they will sleep 14 hours a day for the better part of a month, until they catch up and naturally begin to average out around 8 hours. We spend a lot of our lives ignoring our natural sleep patterns, and at some real cost to ourselves. 10,000 car accidents a year occur as a result of sleep deprivation. Sleep deprivation is associated with depression, anxiety and the development of hypoglycemia and even diabetes. Because of sleep deprivation, we consume enormous quantities of caffeine, with negative effects on the gestation of our children, our blood pressure and our ability to sleep&#8230;which causes us to spend almost a billion dollars each year on medical sleep aids which in turn&#8230;.</p>
<p>While there certainly are intractable and medical sleep issues out there (as a parent of an autistic son with sleep issues, that&#8217;s something important to remember), the evidence suggests that the solution to most sleep related medical problems for MOST people  is simple. Turn off the artificial lights as much as possible. Go to bed at the same time each night. Get as much rest as you really need.  Move your body more during the day.</p>
<p>Now for some of us, this isn&#8217;t realistic. There are people who have to work nights. New parents are probably never going to get as much sleep as they&#8217;d like. There are some people whose bodies really do seem to be implacably on a late night cycle. But most of us aren&#8217;t &#8211; sleep studies show that even &#8220;night owls&#8221; when exposed to enough natural light and darkness tend to move their cycles back towards everyone else&#8217;s.</p>
<p>Now if we were to obey that advice, what would the environmental consequences be? What would they be, for example, if pretty much everyone in the US turned off their lights at 10 pm and actually went to sleep for 8 or 9 hours?  If instead of pushing harder, we went to bed earlier when days get short and nights are long?   If we all turned down our heat, flicked off the power strips and otherwise simply did what their bodies were telling them. What if we unplugged the coffee pot?&#8221;</p>
<p>Trust me, I am not innocent here at all &#8211; I have a tea habit of my own, and the tendency to burn the candle at both ends.  One thing, however, that years of chronic child-related sleep deprivation have taught me, however, is that few things are worth more to me than some sleep, and that I&#8217;m happier if I go to bed rather than playing late with the computer or trying to make myself as productive at night as I am in the day.</p>
<p>These are small things, of course, but they are significant. And think about what kind of *people* we&#8217;d be if we were getting enough rest. We&#8217;d be less grumpy with each other, maybe a little better at making community. We&#8217;d be better able to face the physical burdens of a human powered economy. We&#8217;d be less prone to illness, saving ourselves a great deal of money, discomfort and lost wages. We&#8217;d be better able to face change &#8211; tired, grumpy, overwhelmed people never look on difference as a good idea. Would it change the world? Probably not. Would it save energy and improve our lives in a host of ways? It just might.</p>
<p>When the nights get long, my first impulse is to put on the lights and push hard &#8211; admitting that the change of seasons changes my body and my needs can be difficult.  The rewards, however, of sleep are great, and I&#8217;ve learned over the years to appreciate the long nights and the time to rest.</p>
<p>Naps are good too, but that&#8217;s another post.</p>
<p>Sharon</p>
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